Unproductive Wednesday

Was a little panicked this morning when I noticed I still haven’t received payment for side job.  I have been with this company since 2011 and it has never been later than the 23^rd. 

I have this mild phobia of calling people on the phone (weird, right?), so I gave DW my info and she called the companies finance department for me.  They had a system upgrade so all payroll was delayed by a few days. I should get the deposit tomorrow morning.  PHEW!

I am having a rough day.  I got into work 1.5 hours later than I wanted and since I had to be home for DS2’s bus I was short the hours.  I also could not get focused and was completely unproductive at work which is a rarity for me. I like to keep super busy as it makes the hours go by faster.   I guess we all deserve an off day.

DD1 got a job yesterday.  While I am thrilled for her, I was not excited when she told me at 9pm that she her birth certificate or social security card and her food handlers permit.   I was out $10.00 for the food handler’s permit but I made her make several copies so I could keep them on file.  DW and I clearly remember giving the birth certificate to her several months ago so she could get a copy of her social security card.  Apparently not only did she not get her social security card, but she lost her birth certificate as well.  

We dug through all the unfiled paperwork (think 3 laundry baskets full) to see if maybe the birth certificate had migrated home, but no luck.  DD1 was in a panic because they wouldn’t hire her without the proper documentation.  I sent her home around 10:30pm and told her I would do some more digging.  I was able to find copies of her social security card and birth certificate with her birth name.  I found a certified copy of her adoption decree that shows the name change from her birth name to adopted name.  I am hoping these pieces of documentation will be sufficient. 

Now DD1 is in another bind as she has no transportation for work.  She had been given a unlimited bus pass via a program at school. She told me she lent it to a roommate so she could get to school.  I told DD1 last night she better ask for it back as she needs it now.  I know my daughter was lying about what had happened to the card but there is no use calling her out on it.  Low and behold she texts me this morning stating that she had lied about who had the card.  Her boyfriend (possible ex, can never keep up on their status) has the card and she hasn’t been able to get ahold of him for weeks.  She apologized for lying as she is use to lying about things when it comes to this boyfriend.  For good reason too, DW won’t even allow his name to be said in our house, we refer to him as “he who shall not be named.” (HWSNBN)

I want to help my daughter out with bus money but I hate helping her solve problems that are caused by “HWSNBN”.  He has caused so many problems since he came into our lives in 2012.  Think restraining orders, DD1 running away for months at a time, jail time for him, juvenile detention for DD1, kids witnessing arrests,  property damage, pregnancy scares, rape allegations, sneaking out, theft, and At Risk Youth Petitions.  It was an awful time.  We moved to another city to get away from him!!! One of the main reasons DD1 could not live with us after she turned 18 is that she started dating him again and bringing him into our house when we weren’t around.  So I am torn about what to do. I think I will give her a ride to orientation today but she will have to figure out how to get to and from work until payday. 

Am I mean mother?

So I better start being productive since I was unproductive the first part of the day. I need to get kitchen picked up, laundry moving, make two loaves of bread and maybe even pick up the master bedroom.